Sunday, March 28, 2010

On Goth is a Lifestyle, Part 1:

I have been feeling a lot better with myself since I’ve been getting back to my Goth roots here on my blog. I guess I’ve been feeling a bit too vanilla here. Not that there is anything wrong with being vanilla. Even I have days where ‘normal’ is a good, break out of my box, thing to be.

The trouble with being Goth is the fact that it is a very broad umbrella these days.

Emos got tired of being under that umbrella and are trying to move out into their own group. With the vampire TV/book/movie movement out there in the media, that sub group of Goth will probably want to try to move on too.

‘Goth’ was once based on the Gothic style of architecture and the people that liked that style. The feeling of dark castles and wrought iron, gargoyles and reclusiveness, the people that lived there with long gowns or frock coats, candle light and shadows captured the imagination. Dark stories in these settings full of romance to stir ones blood and fright to thrill the senses became the gothic novel.

In the eighties a group of disenfranchised youth took it to the next level and the Goth music scene was born. Goth became a catch word for this group of dark punk rockers. They added some trappings from gothic fashion from days of old. Victorian mourning clothing, pale faces, and driving hearse became part of the look. (Hearse as cars was already an in thing from the seventies.) Wearing black was the new way to shock the establishment and lay claim to an identity.

They were a loosely formed group of loner, awkward teenagers that felt that they didn’t fit into the happy, preppy, school spirit crowd on the other side of the campus. A way of saying, ‘Don’t confuse us with them or expect us to join in.’

Most Goths are teenagers looking for a place where they can belong, be different than their parents and wheeled some power by shocking others without having to resort to violence. This is as true of them back in the eighties as it is now. These people while true to what Goth is/was to them at that time in their lives, often move away from and move on to other styles later in life. Not a bad thing really. Goth was there for them when they needed it and afterwards they grew into their own style on the other side of their teen years. They fit for a while, but the true Goth is a lifer.

The once Goth is not necessarily a posers. Posers are people who just do a thing to fit in with a group that will take them in, or they go Goth to scare their parents, or follow the lifestyle for a person that they want to impress, but otherwise they don‘t feel the need to be goth heart and soul by themselves.

I’m am talking about the people out there after their teens, that will still have a wardrobe of ‘normal’ clothing that is mostly black and a few choice items often unworn any longer as a reminder of good Goth times gone by.

They work and function in the ‘normal’ world, but still follow the goth bands they love and wish they were still young and had the time to be part of the scene. Goth still turns them on, and warms their ‘cold dead hearts.’

Again not talking about those people from school that just stopped and never moved on after high school or college. Wearing clothing and hair from back in the day and surrounding themselves with mementoes of youth. The ungrown-up.

But I am talking about the Goth with responsibilities and families to feed.

More tomorrow. But until then you can read this article if you don’t believe me.


Lady Dark Firefly said...

That is how I've always felt. I still don't have many friends. I think I may be a bit goth myself and I just didn't know it.

I didn't know that Goths can be okay until I met you at the meeting. I never knew any before. And I think it was my loss.

Thank you for this article.

Have fun fairy watching.

Batty said...

And let's not forget the poetry. Shelley, Keats, anything tragic that ends in one death or more. Sad, tragic, deeply-felt literature of any sort.
Let's not forget the attitude towards life in general, the experience of existence as a dark, dramatic, maybe even melodramatic thing -- and reveling in it.
I've been feeling a bit cut off from my roots as well. The corporate world will do that to you. I'm working on finding my way back.

❦TattingChic said...

Hello there! Thanks for coming over to my very "vanilla" blog to celebrate my blogversary with me! ;)
~TattingChic ♥

sexykangapaws said...

Hey,I'm the one who posted the whole "Michelle Obama is goth" thing and you commented, so I thought I would visit your site.I do not consider myself a goth,but living in the rural midwest, people couldn't wait to stick a label on me. Funny thing is, I've been wearing black,studs, and coveting skull decor for 20 years. I never wanted a label,but before goth,it was metalhead because I listen to heavy metal. I just do my own thing no matter how unpopular it is because it feels right to me. I don't think I am a bad influence on my daughter, either. I think I am showing her that it is ok to be who you are even if it doesn't make you the "norm". I happen to LOVE the true goths,their style is awesome, and my best friend is one of them, so I know what is and isn't true and I will defend them to the death against slanderous ignorance. You've written some really great stuff here, hopefully it will provoke thought in narrow minds and promote acceptance even for that which we do not understand or agree with. Keep up the good work!